Just thinkn aloud...

I would like to know the real definition of Love, because it seems to be different from everyone. Is there even a real definition, or does it depend on the person? And when in a relationship do you feel it is ok to say those three words? And since we are on the topic of relationships, I have more questions. And I know that after reading this that a lot of women will be frustrated but I want to know. This is how it has been for me. Why is it that women make this relationship so hard? The hardest part is finding one that actually has plans for her future and goals that she plans to reach. It seems like all the girls either want a thug (that part of me is in the past), aka someone that can't do shit for them or someone who has no plans in life and is just living day to day. Or they really feel you, but don't want to be in a relationship because of the fear of getting hurt. This I can somewhat understand, because believe it or not, but I have also been hurt in a relationship, cheated on, used, and the list goes on. But one thing that I learned is if you live life afraid then nothing will ever change. There are a lot of women who miss out on good dudes that really want to be a part of THEIR LIFE, but they are too afraid to actually trust in him. And there is a common stereotype that I have heard quite often. "All you niggas are the same." When in all actuality I am nothing like the average "Omaha Nigga." That just bugs the shit out of me. It seems like we spend all this time actually trying to get to know the real you(girl), and let you know that we are genuinely interested in YOU, only for you to say that we wasted our time, because all niggas are jus alike and you know what I want. Really what I want is YOU, but you are too busy thinking that because I am a male that I will hurt you, like males are immune to pain. Like I said before I too have been hurt. And I know how it feels for you to put your all into making a relationship work only to find out that it was based on nothing but lies. But women now don't seem to understand that men have feelings just like they do. But all of the women that I have talked to say that no female can be "on games" just because, a nigga treated her wrong and that’s why they are like that which is bullshit! This is actually a very sexist remark. Just like niggas can be dogs females can too!